Because of the Choices I Made
It’s wild to look at your own life and think, “This didn’t happen by accident.” Not in a prideful way, but in that deep, heart-hitting kind of way, the kind that makes your chest soften and your eyes well up. I’ve been sitting with that feeling a lot lately. This quiet realization that the opportunities in front of me right now, the ones I used to daydream about or journal about or pray for… didn’t just happen. They came because I made some really hard, often invisible, choices.
And the truth is… most of those choices didn’t feel brave at the time. They felt messy. They felt confusing. They felt like standing in the middle of a life I had outgrown, holding a shaking hand over my chest, whispering to myself, “There has to be more than this.” I wasn’t always confident in those moments. I just knew something inside me was begging to be listened to.
Over the past year, I chose to stop betraying myself for the comfort of others. I chose to stop tolerating chaos disguised as passion, friendships that felt like competition, and spaces that shrunk me. I chose stillness when everything in me was addicted to noise. I chose boundaries that made me cry to set but gave me peace in the long run. I chose growth over guilt. I chose to stay in the discomfort of change instead of numbing it, distracting it, or begging someone else to fix it.
And now? The things that once terrified me. Everything… including the idea of letting go, of walking away, of disappointing others, of being misunderstood. They don’t feel as scary. Not because life is easier now, but because I’ve learned I can trust myself to walk through the hard stuff without losing who I am. I’ve learned I don’t have to abandon myself to feel safe. That real peace doesn’t come from everything being perfect—it comes from finally being in alignment with your own soul.
Because of the choices I made this year, my life looks different. Opportunities are showing up that match the energy I’ve been putting out quietly, consistently, even when no one was watching. I’m meeting people who see me—not just for what I can offer, but for who I am at my core. I’m finding myself in spaces that feel nourishing, not depleting. I’m waking up with ideas, inspiration, and vision—not because I hustled harder, but because I let go of what was weighing me down.
And to be honest, I still have days where I doubt it all. Days where I want to go back to what’s familiar, even if it wasn’t healthy. But when I pause and reflect, I can see the evidence: growth is happening. Healing is unfolding. The version of me I fought so hard to become is starting to lead the way.
So if you’re reading this and you’re in the thick of it: maybe you’re setting boundaries for the first time, or leaving a relationship, or changing careers, or simply trying to stop abandoning yourself…. please hear me when I say: it’s worth it. Even when it feels lonely. Even when no one claps for you. Even when the world doesn’t yet reflect the changes happening inside you. Keep going.
Because one day, you’re going to wake up and say, “I don’t live in survival mode anymore.” One day, you’ll look around and see that the life surrounding you is a mirror of the healing you chose. And you’ll smile, not because everything is perfect, but because you’re no longer pretending.
Because of the choices I made, I finally feel free. And that kind of freedom? That’s what Becoming U is all about.
